Archive for November, 2009

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Have You Been Falsely Accused?

November 24, 2009

[Today's post is by Dr. Wayde Goodall, author of Success Kills. Goodall and his wife, Rosalyn, are authors, speakers, life coaches, ministry consultants and pastors traveling extensively around the globe holding family events and seminars. Success Kills, published by New Leaf Press, is Goodall's 14th book.]

There is no way you can be a leader, be successful, or reach your goal without being accused by someone of wrong motives or misinformation, or having them question your integrity.

Gossip, false accusations and threats from people who are attacking your reputation can bring damage to you and block your success.

What do you do? Keep integrity as your top priority. If you have done anything less than “high integrity,” apologize and make it right.

Also…

  • Understand it is “normal” to feel some guilt, even when you did not do anything wrong.
    • analyze whether this is true guilt…or false guilt
  • It is very common to overreact to the person, threat, or false accusation…think before your say or do anything.
  • Accept reality…you cannot erase what has happened or what was said.  This is real and you will need to deal with it.
  • Write out what you feel needs to happen to clear your name, motives, or false statements about you.
  • Know that people might, or might not, admit that they said [something] about you or did [something] to you.
    • you need to remind yourself you did nothing wrong
  • Find closure, don’t react to what you think people are saying about you.  Walk in truth, don’t be intimidated by what you think someone feels about you and keep doing the right thing.
  • You can’t put out every fire.  You can’t comment, address, or defend yourself with every accusation.  Rumors have a life of their own. Decide to “not” react to everything you have heard about you.
  • Take control…make your stand and take your power back.  Remember, this is a false accusation – you did nothing wrong and your motives were honest.  Be confident in who you are and don’t let this situation paralyze you.
  • Give yourself a gift…be nice to yourself today, go to the gym, take your spouse out to Starbucks (or dinner), call your kids and tell them you love them, go fishing or do something you enjoy.

False accusations are normal.  Jesus experienced them and so will you.  Take the high road and do not let insecure, threatened, jealous people, or “power-players,” take the dream God gave you.

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Do It Today!

November 17, 2009

[Today's post is by Dr. Wayde Goodall, author of Success KillsGoodall and his wife, Rosalyn, are authors, speakers, life-coaches, ministry consultants and pastors traveling extensively around the globe holding family events and seminars. Success Kills, published by New Leaf Press, is Goodall's 14th book.]

I just began writing my fifteenth book.  Most of my high school teachers would be shocked that part of my career is writing.  I just barely passed high school English!

Often the question is asked, how do you write a book…or start a company…or begin a new ministry?

My response? Do something today.

Don’t wait to:

  • Get inspired
  • Get it perfect
  • Receive permission or approval
  • Become confident
  • To get the right person to join with you in your dream
  • Make someone like you
  • Receive reassurance from whomever
  • Get over you past failure

Your dream is too important to wait … start working on getting there (one decision at a time).

You have likely heard of many formulas for success:  Here are some basics…

  • Have a dream (what is your vision)
  • What is your real life passion (this could be your dream), what do you think about when you are imagining what could, should, or would happen if??
  • Develop a strategy (what you think will need to happen to get to your dream)
  • Keep integrity as your top priority
  • Be willing to adjust (flexible)
  • Take the risk (my definition of faith: “calculated risk”)
  • Get close to people that want you to win (some will try to sabotage you)
  • Begin today (make a call, write a note, compose, take action … now)
  • Sacrifice (every worthwhile endeavor will take a sacrifice … i.e., you give up something to get to your goal … like television, golf, skiing, etc.)
  • Live in balance; take care of yourself, your marriage, your relationship with your children

Most important:  Don’t begin any of this until you commit your dream (plan) to the Lord. “Commit your actions to the Lord, and your plans will succeed.” (Proverbs 16:3 NLT)

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